Vision, Change and Faith - Why we need all three

A change in my external circumstances provides me with an opportunity to grow as a human being. The greater the change, the faster I can grow. If we can perceive change along these lines, we will find it exciting and energizing, rather than depressing and debilitating. I read this somewhere, and boy am I growing. Its seems that 2009 has been designed with change in mind, so instead of falling under the bus of change, I climbing on it using the steps of Faith. There can be no change without Faith, I am here to tell. There should be neither, without Vision; your Vision defines the change, the outcome, what you desire, and the intended state for your life. To truly see faith in action, you must a Vision for your life, for your future. Envision your future life, change now, and have faith, a confident belief, that what you see, you will be... even without proof, that is --- until you are living it of course!

Survival of a Friendship

I find myself exploring the nature of my friendships past and present with my girlfriends. How these friendships change? How some friendships end and how some have survived through life's many twists and turns. The more I look at it, the more I compare my friendships to a marriage. Can you change, grow and still remain one? Contrary to what I might have believed, that friendships end because of distance, time, etc. I now know that friendships end: 1. because one or both parties are unwilling to live with the growth or lack of growth in another, 2. we feel that our current lifestyle or choices will not be supported by the other so we choose not to involve them in our lives, and 3. this may be the most important, we are so afraid of losing a friend that we will not tell them the truth, so we shy away. A true friend, who has known you for some time becomes an exceptional mirror, that you can see your reflection clearly. They can tell us what is it that we project to the world. They see the insides of us and read our emotions so clearly that we may find this hard to live with.

In our friendships we adhere to this falsehood that true friends don't fight so we never get to hash things out as is needed from time to time in any healthy relationship. As in a partnership/ marriage a good fight clears the air and you can let go of all the anger and move on. You are allowed to speak from your soul and say what you feel. You are allowed to share what is your experience of the friendship. Do you pretend everything is fine when its not? 2009, I pledge to myself to respond with truth, when solicited of course. This I have to remember, any unsolicited advice is not met with an open heart, so respond only when solicited, and respond in a manner that you would like for yourself. I will learn how to fight with a friend and find ways to resolve conflict. This can only mean greater, tested, stronger, more meaningful friendships for me to enjoy.

Just Live Your Life!

Today I heard the phrase "You are never too old to have a new life". This phrase resonated with me thoroughly. You see its never really too late to have a new life, as long as we are alive. If there is a life you have been waiting to live, why not begin today. Each time I think in these terms, I realize that they are parts of my life that are missing from the overall picture. These parts I keep waiting to live , as if there is just the right moment. And this happens to be that moment. Whether its to spend more time doing the things that I love, being in true service or just having more fun in general, each day these have been placed at the bottom of the to-do list. Not anymore! I was reminded today, as a special family said goodbye to their special son, that its not how long you live, its how you live. You can be young in years and have a beautiful, significant, epic of a life story, if you make lasting impressions and live the life that you truly want. To borrow a phrase from T.I. "Just Live Your life!" This is the only moment that counts.

Stress in our Children

As a full-time worker, a mother of three and a business owner, I am no stranger to stress, as I am sure many of you are share this burden. But do we recognize the signs of stress in our children? Please read my latest article on Recognizing Stress/distress in our Children and let me know your thoughts.

2009

I get the distinct impression from talking to my friends that this New Year is being met with much apprehension. And given the economic situation, the many wars being fought and continuing environmental issues I would have to say rightly so. However, many of us are choosing to stay hopeful that the change we all so wanted will bring about just what we hoped. It was the mystic Rumi that said the "Moonlight floods the whole sky from horizon to horizon; How much of it can fill your room depends on its windows." This new year let our windows be clear and clean and huge.

In his now infamous writings Rumi also wrote of the Three Pearls. In this story Adam was gifted from the Divine with three pearls, Reason, Faith and Humility. He had to choose which of these pearls he mostly desired. He choose Reason, that is when the pearls of Faith and Humility then said to him "We cannot exist without of our holy friend, Reason." So Faith and Humility was also granted to him. As children of Adam we have also been granted these pearls. In this New Year, let us use the all. Let our power of Reason help us to put in perspective all that we see and hear in the media. Use this power to make the best decisions for 2009. Have Faith in our heart that these decisions are made knowing that each and every step we take is a necessary one that leads to the making of YOU. And most importantly have Humility on our face, understand that Everything that we possess, truly belongs to this life, and to have it, is a blessing from the Divine.